Stay At Home?
Below is a long article I wrote almost 3 years ago. I stumbled upon it this evening on one of my Flash drives and I thought I'd share it with you. There are so many women struggling with whether they should work or stay at home. So should moms work or stay at home? Well you know what, every situation is different. Staying at home and raising my child is what I wanted to do, but I also wanted to earn a living too. I love earning my own money. So that is why I made the decision to find a balance between the two..
For other women, they just like being away from home no matter what. They need that time away from home. So there is no wrong or right answer. I was annoyed with a man who had six children with his wife and left her because she did not work. Taking care of 6 children is work. Some men are so damn ignorant...seriously. Anyway, enough of my ranting. So what do you think...should women work or stay at home? Go ahead, read my old article below. Enjoy!
With the rise of day care cost, and the fact that salaries are not on the rise, it has become extremely difficult for many families to pay daycare costs for two or more children at the same time. Also many stay-at-home moms feel guilty about not working. I certainly felt guilty. I had a strong desire to contribute to the family financially. My husband never pressured me to go out to work after having my first child, but I wanted to work. Surviving on one income in America today for the average family is extremely difficult. However, many families are living on a budget and they are surviving somehow. Just surviving is not enough for me. I wanted more for myself and family.
Many one-income families in America today do not have money set aside in case of an emergency or loss of income. This is not a good situation to be in because if the working spouse dies, gets laid off, or there is some type of emergency that shakes the family's a financial foundation, then what do you think will happen to the family? How will they survive? How long will it take the stay home parent to find a job, or start a business with positive cash flow in the event of an emergency? Does that parent have a specialized skill? I suggest that every one-income family have a financial back up, at least a six-month emergency fund that will sustain the family in case of an emergency. At least the bills and living expenses during that period would be covered, giving the stay at home parent enough time to start a business, or job-hunt. Also, if the spouse is injured this will give enough time for recovery.
Maybe you've thought of working from home, but it seems unattainable. You might be one of those women asking the question..."Should women work or stay at home?" You don't even know where to start. You might be considering a 9-5, but deep down inside you really want to work from home. Before you think about getting a 9-5, I would really like you to consider the following:
My friend Malcolm was earning $36,950 per year, and his wife Latoya stayed home with their two small children, while their first child attended public school. After living on $36,950 for one year Latoya couldn't take the budget crunching anymore. Living on that income with three children got so suffocating for Latoya that she got a full time job outside the home. "Two incomes would definitely make a big difference," she thought.
The full time job paid $300 net weekly. That's about $19,200 gross annually. Don't you think this would actually help the family out quite a bit financially? After all, two-income families should be better off financially than one-income families. I would think so. I bet you think so too. Let's take a look and see what the results are.
Latoya's income $19,200
Social security (7.65%) $ 1,468
Public transportation ($3 per day) $ 780
Daycare cost for two children ($150 wk) $ 7,800
Buying lunch once a week ($10) $ 520
Income tax (15%) $ 2, 880
Latoya's Total Annual Income after expenses $5,752
NOTE: Latoya carries her lunch to work everyday except Fridays and eats breakfast at home before she leaves for work. If she didn't do this, it would cost her even more. I didn't even subtract other miscellaneous items (i.e., dry cleaning) from her pay, and that's what she's left with. She is only making approximately $479 a month. Although many two-income families are getting by financially, many are barely surviving. It certainly depends on the situation, and the spending habits of the family. In this case, Latoya should consider working from home. Most people working outside the home buy their breakfast and lunch everyday. So consider that also. Latoya just happens to be very frugal and tries to save in any way she can. Many women fall into the same trap that Latoya is in. Some just want to spend more time with the family, while others just hate the "rat race", and desperately want to get out. However, before you start looking for home employment please evaluate yourself to make sure that work from home is right for you.
Following are several questions you should ask yourself before deciding to work at home. If you can't answer yes to the following questions, then you are not completely ready to work from home. The questions are:
If you are focused, disciplined, have a positive attitude, highly motivated with excellent communication skills, can answer yes to the above mentioned questions, then you are ready to work from home as an independent contractor, freelance or telecommuter. If not, then you can either learn these lessons along the way or work outside the home.
It is very important that before you start working from home that you have an office set up with a good computer, phone line (you will need a second phone line for some assignments), and a fax machine. Some computers come with faxing features. Most jobs are done remotely, and the Internet is a conduit for telecommuting jobs.
I'm not saying that all telecommuting jobs are done via the computer. However, most home-based jobs require that you have a computer. In the
you will find a list of companies that are always hiring home-based transcriptionists, customer service reps., writers, tutors, teachers, etc. These are actually jobs that you can perform as an independent contractor. You will be hired independently, and you can work for as many companies as you can handle.
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